Learning to Trust

I've been learning lately that as much as we want results when we trust God about something often we don't get the result we were trusting for.  How often do we trust that God will give us something more than trusting God period?  I've been working with some young women as they are teaching 1 Peter and in chapter 2 Peter reminds them you were not a people and now you are God's people, beloved I keep exhorting you as sojourners (people passing through) and aliens (non natives settling down for a short time) constantly keep away from fleshly cravings which keep warring against your soul, but if you are continually suffering doing beneficial good and endure, this (is) grace from God.  We could trust all of these and expect a result.  Because we are God's people we'll make the right decisions.  Because we keep away from fleshly cravings God will bless us the way we expect. Because we suffer because of good we do God will take it away and someone will be saved.  What about the pastor whose church revolts at a Biblical decision?  What about the person who is becoming closer to God but is poor, single and maybe in a country where they persecute Christians?  What about the missionary who gives up everything to go to a country and not one person becomes a Christian?  I know people this has happened to and the first thing people throw out is "they weren't in God's will", "you can't do things like that in church because you know how people are" and my favorite "your faith isn't strong enough".  Strangely Job, Isaiah, Jeremiah, Paul, Anna and Simeon are some of the few that experienced the questions I asked above.  I'm guessing these men and women wouldn't fall into the comments Christians are quick to use.  When my husband comes to me with roses and candy and a table at a nice restaurant and then says to me, "You are the best wife ever and I know that you hear me when I'm asking, no begging you to let me buy a sports car.  We need a new car and if I'm a good husband you'll let me get it right?  I'm trusting that you will cause well I've already bought the car."  Yeah wouldn't go over well would it?  When we have expectations that aren't within the scope of our individual relationship and we know God's general answer on certain aspects of our life, we aren't  trusting God we are telling God what would be in our best interest.  When I was a kid if I had problems with another kid I wasn't given the okay to figure it out kid style on the play ground.  We were taught you go to an adult.  Why? Because we couldn't appreciate the consequences of our actions and couldn't see the bigger picture. We took it to an adult and trusted them to fix the problem but sometimes the answer didn't make sense.  Get along with that kid?  That's the best you can do?  Try and be their friend? Are you kidding me?  So we do it expecting that it will change the other kid.  What I've learned from 1 Peter 2 and life is that most of the time God changes us and the other person often stays exactly the same.  That's okay because I don't know how this all plays out and the ending of my story may be the beginning of someone else's.  So stop over thinking it.  Tell God what you need.  Don't sit around and wait for Him to give it to you.  Get up and out and if it benefits change in you you'll get it and if not dry your tears and lift up your chin.  You'll get why He didn't somewhere in your forties, fifties, sixties......